The power of forgiveness is nothing short of amazing! Many of us have been wronged by people we love, admire, look up to, even by the church, or by members within the church, where the concept of forgiveness becomes an untouchable thought. Believe me I’ve been there, but it is very possible to forgive! You have to make this an active and daily prayer for yourself.
My church, not too long ago, had a guest speaker who spoke about the importance of forgiveness and how, even when put on the cross, Jesus prayed for the very people who were acting out against him. “Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do.” Through all the hurt, torture and pain Jesus found the time and strength to pray for his enemies. The mere thought of this blew me away! Because, let me tell you, when my sister wears my favourite jeans, or uses my go-to lip gloss without asking I can be so unforgiving over the most mundane and unimportant things.
We’re talking about people who were actively pursuing Jesus in order to murder Him. Not someone who used something without permission, or someone who forgot an anniversary or birthday. The crazy thing is Jesus still found the time in all he had to endure to show acts of love, compassion and kindness. Kinda makes me look like a really sucky person for holding a grudge over some silly jeans doesn’t it?! The fact is that we are far too judgey, and our inability to understand is usually our last resort. Ever heard the saying “we listen to reply, not to understand”? Definitely applies to most of us!
Unforgiveness destroys a good life:
But what about something deeper than a silly jeans or lip gloss? Like betrayal, heart ache or dishonesty? We’ve all been there is some way and its not an easy space to find yourself in. To forgive someone means to ‘let him/her off the hook’ or to cancel a ‘debt’ owed. When we refuse to forgive, we still want something from that person, even if it is revenge, it keeps us tied to that person for a very long time. Refusing to forgive can be one of the main reasons why some of us feel stuck for years. Look at it this way, if we do not forgive, we are demanding something our offender does not choose to give us. Even if it is something as simple as a confession, this will always ‘tie’ the person to us. That’s where the feeling of being stuck comes from, the inability to move past the lack of closure can truly destroy us.
Turn you Suffering into Great blessing:
The book of Genesis tells us about how Joseph’s own brothers attacked him, sold him into slavery and caused him to be separated from his father for 20 years. Jealousy was the root of all the evil done unto Joseph, and God found a way to turn his suffering into great blessing, where his enemies found themselves turning to Joseph for survival. Joseph did not use the opportunity for revenge, although he had so much to forgive, he did not dwell on the offences. He gained grace from God and let go of what others had done to him. Unforgiveness destroys a good life, forgiveness creates it!
We have this love box in our church, where people gather around and pray for whatever names, or prayer requests are placed inside the box, and the guest speaker asked us to write down on a piece of paper a list of people we wanted prayer for, and on the list we had to include our enemies. The very idea of putting in a prayer request for someone I did not wish to even think about was a truly uneasy feeling. However, once I followed through, it turned out to be one of the most liberating feelings I’ve ever experienced, just placing that little piece of paper into that box changed me. It was such a philosophical symbol of forgiveness and leaving it up to God that I literally felt like myself again. I think that was the main point of it. It was not about the cheesy love box, or writing their name down on paper and walking up to the box. It was the intention behind the act. A metaphoric gesture of letting go.
You don’t have to forget:
To me forgiveness is not forgetting, we’re human after all. Forgiveness isn’t even about reconciliation. Forgiveness takes one person, reconciliation takes two. It only takes you to decide to let go of the hurt, humiliation, shame, whatever is weighing you down and let God take complete control of your heart. If you can’t bring yourself to forgive, or don’t even feel that you want to, ask God to work on your spirit, change your thoughts and alter your perspective. I pray this prayer all the time. It’s not an easy prayer to pray, but it’s so worth it.
Thought of the Day:
Pray today for the spirit of forgiveness and pray for the Lord to bless your enemies. It’s not your job to hold the burden of all the pain and harm caused upon you, God literally asks us to cast our burdens upon Him. Bring it before the Lord and let go of your hurt. Liberate yourself in the divine spirit of forgiveness.
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